The Ego is Not Your Amigo... or is it?

Have you ever had someone check your ego at the door? Or perhaps you've called someone else out in the same way?

We often tend to consider the ego in a negative connotation, and I used to agree with this sentiment. However, during a recent discussion in a yin yoga training, my perspective on the ego shifted. In the realm of personal development and spiritual practices, there seems to be a prevalent idea that the ego is something to transcend or even eliminate entirely. Concepts like ego death and transcending the ego have gained popularity, suggesting that a life free from ego is the path to enlightenment or true self-realization. However, what if we looked at the ego in a different light? What if, instead of trying to get rid of it, we learn to befriend it? In this post, we will explore the idea of embracing the ego as an ally rather than an enemy and how it can lead to personal growth and self-awareness.🌟🤝

Understanding the Ego

To befriend the ego, we must first understand what it represents. The ego is the part of our psyche that identifies with our individuality, separates us from others, and shapes our self-image. It is the "I, Me, & My" that we connect with and see ourselves as. It is essentially our story, our beliefs, and how we show up in the world. While an over-attachment and inflation of the ego can lead to negative behaviors and attitudes, a healthy & balanced ego serves an important function in our lives. It is an essential part of our humanity and an integral aspect of being present in our collective human experience, showing us that while we are separate, we are also a part of the whole.🌍❤️

Acknowledging the Positive Aspects of the Ego

Rather than dismissing the ego as an obstacle to overcome, we should recognize the positive aspects it brings to our lives. When nurtured and allowed to grow, the ego provides a sense of identity, self-worth, and personal boundaries. These boundaries allow us to navigate the story of our lives and change trajectory when needed. The ego drives us to achieve goals, assert ourselves, and navigate social interactions. By acknowledging these positive qualities, we can start to see the ego as a necessary and integral part of our being, especially in the earlier stages of our lives.🌱💪

Embracing Self-Awareness and Personal Growth

Befriending the ego means developing a healthy relationship with it. Instead of suppressing or ignoring its presence, we can use it as a tool for self-awareness and personal growth. The ego can serve as our accountability partner, constantly questioning our thoughts, actions, and motivations. It can help us pause and reflect before reacting impulsively, asking ourselves if our choices align with our values and if there's a better way to handle situations. The key here is to maintain a healthy balance, not allowing for co-dependency or unhealthy attachments to our story and beliefs. Can we maintain awareness and also allow ourselves to become a witness to how we move about in our world? A good friend doesn't hold us back but supports and inspires us to be the best version of ourselves that we can possibly be. This is not only good for the individual but also for our communities and environments that we live in.🧘‍♀️🌻

Cultivating a Compassionate Inner Dialogue

To befriend our ego, we must cultivate a compassionate inner dialogue. Rather than harshly criticizing ourselves or indulging in self-aggrandizement, we can adopt a balanced approach. Just like a good friend, the ego can gently call us out when we veer off course, reminding us to align with our true intentions and values. This compassionate self-talk encourages growth and self-improvement while maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth. Without this healthy balance, we may not know or be able to observe when we've stepped out of line or when we may need to voice our needs more clearly. This compassionate inner dialogue is of utmost importance because we spend the majority of our lives inside our own minds, navigating what can feel like the storm of thoughts sweeping through and wreaking havoc on our body, mind, and spirit. If we can pull ourselves up and speak to ourselves with compassion and a true desire to understand ourselves, then we can really begin to transcend the chaos of our lives.🌈💭💖

Balancing the Ego with Other Aspects of Being

While befriending the ego is valuable, it's also important to strike a balance and integrate other aspects of our being. This includes cultivating qualities like empathy, compassion, kindness, discernment, critical thinking, humility, and interconnectedness, to name a few. By recognizing that we are not defined solely by our ego, we can expand our perspective and engage with the world from a more holistic standpoint. The ego is but one way that we can view the self in the world around us. How can we adapt this principle into our relationships, careers, spiritual practices, and care for the environment?🌱🌺🌏

So then, in conclusion!

Rather than viewing the ego as an enemy to be vanquished or transcended above, we can choose to befriend it, harnessing its potential for self-awareness, personal growth, meaningful relationships, and accountability. By developing a compassionate and balanced relationship with our ego, we can navigate life's challenges with greater clarity and integrity. So, what do you say? Let your ego be your amigo in the best way possible because ultimately, we are meant to be here, right now, in this human experience. Don't spend all your time trying to ascend out of it.🙌😊

Better living, folks. 👊

xx

Kass